It is easy to spend much of your day beating up on yourself for past mistakes. We analyze that relationship that failed and relentlessly review all the things that we did wrong, or we look at that business decision that cost us so much and dwell on the things we could have done right. It is not going to get you any better. Once and for all stop being so hard on yourself. You are a human being and human beings have been designed to make mistakes. As long as you don’t keep making the same mistakes again and have a good judgment on letting your past serve you, you will be on the right track. Accept them and move on.
Many times we try to change ourselves by wanting to develop certain qualities and character that we see in others.
Well ask yourself one question, do you really want to develop that character? Will it really be you? Are you ready to face the circumstances? In this process we try really hard to be someone else that we often forget who we really are. We pressure ourselves on trying to become someone else and this could have an opposite effect on the people around you. If your ready for that, go ahead!
What my point here is, don’t try to become someone your really not. It’s human nature, we want to be like that cool guy or that man with the awesome personality. Learn to stay grounded and be yourself for a change. Embrace who you really are and your purpose here on earth. Give yourself some time. You will learn much more and will be respected for it.
As Mark Twain said,”We should be careful to get out of an experience only the wisdom that is in it and stop there.” We shouldn’t be like the cat that sits down on a hot stove lid. It will never sit down on a hot stove lid again and it will also never sit on a cold stove lid anymore. Experience is the best teacher! Value it!
The best way to learn from your mistakes and grow as a human being, is to make a list of the ten biggest mistakes you made in your life on the left-hand side. And on the right-hand side, write down the corresponding lessons and benefits you gained from them. Make another list of the qualities you want to develop and ask yourself if you really intend to. Then besides each of them, write down the things you need to do to bring about this certain quality in you.
You will soon see that your life would not be as rich and colorful without the mistakes of your past. So be gentler on yourself and see life for what it really is- A path of self-discovery, personal development and life long learning!